Category Archives: The nature of kink

RECIPE – mixing up a session

This started life as a post for the theme of chemistry on Wicked Wednesday but I found I was having to force fit what I wanted to write into the theme and just sort of stopped. I decided to finish it off anyway, unconstrained by the chemistry idea.

BEHIND THE BLINDFOLD – (kink of the week)

The first time a Mistress blindfolded me, I hated it. She was amazingly beautiful and dressed in expensive, skin tight leather which she paraded in front of me for five minutes before putting me in a blindfold for the rest of the session. I didn’t understand it.

COLD SMOKE – finding the flow

They’re younger than me, these guys. And fitter. After two days I’m wondering why I’m here. In this company, with their second homes and expensive cars, I feel the poor relation, unsuccessful in life and love. It’s nonsensical to feel this way but, after two days of fighting my skis, fighting my lack of fitness,… Read More »

“YES, MISTRESS” – triggers for submission

“Yes, Mistress”   “No, Mistress”   “Thank You, Mistress”   At times I describe myself as “not very submissive” and indeed the outer reaches of the world of female supremacy and male subjugation, the world of Sardax and his wonderful art, are places I have no real desire to visit.

DEAR ELITA – two years on

Dear Elita It’s been almost exactly two years now! How many sessions? I suspect more than one a month. Thirty? Forty even? Are you bored of me yet? I’m so completely not bored of you. Nor of the things you do to me, the things we do together. For me, it still feels new and fresh, edgy… Read More »

THE FEMDOM BALL – barely submissive

So, tomorrow, Saturday the 7th, I am going to attend the Femdom Ball, an event dedicated to female supremacy; a ballroom full of supremely dominant women in rubber, leather and lace. The men will be there only as submissive slaves to fetch and carry, to worship and obey; obeisant at all times to the glorious visions… Read More »


Last time I tried to drill down into what it meant to me to play a BDSM session with Elita’s man, Molly, the lovely and wonderful doyenne of sex blogging suggested it was something I was only beginning to explore and would come back to. Well she was right, because here I am; coming back to… Read More »