I’m not a huge watcher of porn but, unsurprisingly, what draws me in when I do is, for the most part, kinky. I remember looking at spanking magazines such as Janus back in the 80’s, usually too unsure of myself to actually buy them; instead admiring the post-spanking blush on the female bottoms that invariably adorned the front cover.
When the internet started I found myself reading spanking stories, the dial up link too slow for anything with more than one picture. As download speeds increased it opened a huge cornucopia of kinky internet porn, catering for every conceivable niche interest (and some frankly inconceivable ones also).
However in the race for ‘clicks’ quantity outpaced quality at an alarming rate. So, when I wade into this mess, what do I look for as a kinky male who sees professional Dominatrix’s? Perhaps surprisingly, not, in general, Femdom CP scenes. I will occasionally go there but, as an overweight, middle-aged man, I don’t want to get my porn kicks watching overweight middle-aged men. If the Mistress in the video looks good and is being particularly vicious, I can sometimes forget that the man looks like me rather than like the younger, fitter person I see when I remember my own experiences.
I also like to play as a Male dominant so I do sometimes watch male dom/female sub scenes. However even here, the men, and sometimes the women, are too real. I like my porn fantasies to be fantasies; stylised, artificial; hot men and women, or better still just women, in hot BDSM situations. I want the filming to be artful, the impact of the hand, paddle, whip, on her body to be captured in every detail; I want to see her reaction to it in glorious erotic close up.
OK, so here’s a confession, one that fits with a liking for beautifully filmed, fantasy BDSM porn. It’s the most terrible confession I have made on here (which is saying quite a lot actually), one that’s almost guaranteed to get me drummed out of the kinky brownies, banished to vanilla twitter for ever.
You ready?
Well here it is: I was turned on by the dungeon scenes in Fifty Shades of Grey.
I know he was an abusive arse; that the movie did irreparable damage to public perceptions of kink; that the script was awful and the sex scenes were ridiculous.
But….
But….
But I found Dakota Johnson just SO hot. I wanted to tie her up myself, I wanted to smack her hand with the riding crop, let her taste a flogger on her back for the first time, run my lips over the warmth it left behind. The idea of taking a novice and guiding her into kink, seeing how her fear of pain turns into want for it, as she first dreads then revels in the new sensations. These ideas grabbed me and still do, spoilt, I admit, by the abusive and less than fully consensual way they are approached in the film.
Perhaps my enjoyment (too small a word) of my scenes with inexperienced submissive Miss S comes from the same place.
Where then does all that leave this video?; my go-to porn video for all time. I first saw it a couple of years ago and must have been back to it 100 times. Maggie Carpenter whose re-post this links to, described what makes it special. Her body, the underwear, the bench, his suit, the rhythmic sound of his hand on her bottom. And more (at least for me), the way she lifts her bottom to meet his hand, that’s what really presses my buttons, that and her orgasm at the end of it. This is the spanking scene that 50 shades needed, but never got; consensual dominance and submission, pain as pleasure, pain FOR pleasure, in a perfect symphony of needs and desires.
So, one day, I’m going to find the right submissive, buy her the right underwear, rent the right dungeon with the right spanking bench. I might even wear a suit. And then I’m going to spank her. I’m going to spank her with exactly the right rhythm, smacking one cheek then the other with gradually increasing force just as he does. I’m going to spank her till she makes exactly the same little gasping/moaning sounds when she comes.
To turn my favourite fantasy porn into reality. What a thing that would be.
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I did have to giggle at the 50 shades comment, I haven’t seen the film so I have no idea not hotbit may be. That’s the thing with porn though, sometimes it’s the bizarre that turns us on.
Who would have thought it, you liking spanking porn? *grins
And thank you for sharing a link to that clip as it is really rather hot, I love the way her bum gets redder and redder as it goes on and the sound of flesh on flesh like that is gorgeous
Mollyx