NEEDY – a black obsession
I hate being like this. Normally my kink hums away below the surface, a faint throb like the far away engine noise on a ship; there, should I want to listen to it, but unobtrusive if I am busy with other things.
Category Archives: The nature of kink
SAFEWORDS AND MALE SUBS – kotw
My earliest lesson on the importance of safewords was a harsh one. In my very first session with a professional Mistress, and with no experience whatsoever, the physical and emotional shock of her assault on me was so great that I blanked the safeword, forgot even that I had given her a safeword before the… Read More »
PLEASING THE MISTRESS – the parent/child interaction
The Wicked Wednesday prompt “Pleasing” made me think. It made me think about my Mistress, and how important it is for my enjoyment of a session to know that she has been pleased by me and by my actions and reactions during our time together.
WHEN PAIN IS NO LONGER A FRIEND
My most recent BDSM session bought to life an old fantasy which focussed on being kidnapped and abused. It turned out to be a more demanding and deeper experience than I could possibly have imagined.
STRUGGLING – against your bondage – KOTW
Yes, I want to struggle. I want to feel each strap as you wrap it over my body and fasten the buckle. As you tighten each one I want to pull against it, feel its answering pressure then relax; relaxing a little deeper each time, as strap by strap you transpose my focus from the cares of the working day to the… Read More »
THE MORNING AFTER – the session before
It is not a large, well known or even especially expensive hotel, at least not when its centeral London location is taken into account. However the shower attachment is the latest in high-tech water management. I have it set to “waterfall” and a constant stream of hot water pours down like thick paint from a can,… Read More »
BLOOD ON THE CANE – reactions
It takes nothing to draw blood with a knife – the words even feel right together: knife-blood, blood-knife. A single-tail whip, such as a bull whip, with its thin waxed cord moving at the speed of sound, will draw blood readily; indeed it takes great skill to stop it doing so. But a cane; a cane is… Read More »
SEXUAL MASOCHISM – or self harm?
Something that greatly affects the outcome of a session with a Mistress is my mental state going in. Am I up or am I down? Do I arrive feeling positive, confident and motivated or do I arrive feeling bad about myself, negative and depressed?
ANATOMY OF A CANING – no pain, no gain
Over the last 6 months I have been travelling deeper into what is known in BDSM as “Impact Play.” IMPACT: Someone hitting you. PLAY: For fun. I mean, it has to be fun or it wouldn’t be called PLAY, right?