Every now and then, someone puts a comment on my blog that deserves its own space. Very few of the people who see a Dominatrix but otherwise keep their kinks private, as I was doing for many years, have a platform where they can expose their kinks to public scrutiny and, hopefully, enjoy the acceptance… Read More »
I love posting other people’s stories on here. I’ve been in contact with Twitter friend, Honey for a few years and we recently had an extended exchange, effectively “swapping” details of our recent, intense BDSM experiences. We share some kinks, notably our masochism and our desire to take emotional risks as well as physical ones… Read More »
My recent post questioned some things I had read in an extended comment from PainAsPleasure reader James. I asked whether his description of “the utter shame and humiliation from crying in front of a woman” indicated something other than healthy submission as a BDSM kink. I invited a reply from James and he sent me this excellent, articulate… Read More »
So far, all my guest posts have come from “men-who-see-Dommes” with obvious parallels to my own part-hidden kinky life. Here is something a little different. Lyra popped into my DM’s just a week or so ago, telling me how my exploration of my masochism, which is at the heart of my blog, had helped her build… Read More »
I always enjoy it when I can provide a platform for a kinky male who, like me, leads a life where a significant part of their true selves is “in the closet.” It’s fun to give such folk a chance to peek out of the closet and tell their story.
I first met this guy, we’ll call him ‘M,’ online through my twitter account and we became regular DM correspondents. He told me he related strongly to the depth of emotional engagement I describe in my sessions with professional Dommes and subs and he described his own, similarly intense, feelings about his sessions with professional… Read More »
I owe Mistress Elita a great debt for bringing the very lovely Miss Lilly Watson into my life exactly a year ago. That Elita should have been happy for me to be the very first client at the start of her friend’s journey into sex work seemed a great honour and privilege.
The final in this series of three posts by guest writer Melody I found fascinating. Melody discusses FemDom hypnosis, the holistic submissive experience and the mental and physical horizons that it opens up.
In her second post melody talks about her chastity and the development of it through her longstanding relationship with a Mistress. I find the way she describes the development of melody as a distinct identity, an important part of his/her complete makeup, very compelling. It’s a deeply personal tale of growth in BDSM and I… Read More »
Its not often I get a comment longer that the post being commented about! Kim recently left this comment on a very early post about my love for spanking. I found the way she writes about her desire to be spanked way past the point of tears very intense. I have to admit that the idea… Read More »
Today I have a guest post for you. This comes from Melody who occasionally writes insightful extended comments on my blog. If you walked in on Melody and I mid-session you would be struck by the similarities; a male tied to a bench being beaten by a dominatrix. You might think our kinks were the same.